http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
Finished? It's funny right? How shocking that nearly all the guys said 'no' and all the girls, in fact, said 'yes'. This prompted me to message everyone on my contact list and ask them the very same question. All I wanted was an honest yes or no answer. The results were hilarious and very intriguing! As you can pretty much imagine, I got a very mixed reaction.
Unlike the clip not all girls said , 'yes'! Obviously, like the clip a lot of girls did say 'yes'. Funny enough judging by how well I know them and their ages. They were relatively young and naive enough to say yes! (Sorry girls!). Only two of the girls (one being the youngest in my contact list) said 'no'! Well done on them. The older and maturer girls in my contact list said 'no'. Straight up with no hesitation. Men and women can't be friends. Why? Because the likeliness of one fancying the other is inevitable. They added, 'even if he was the most unattractive lad there will be some sort of feelings there, unless he's gay!' I got that response a lot! Hilarious right?
Then, a second group of people gave me the 'yes and no' response. They said it depended entirely on the situation, age, and their occupation! If in school or university, then yes men and women can be friends. If older and working then it's next to impossible unless they are strictly professional colleagues. Some, also, added that it depends if there's an attraction full stop. If there is an attraction then it's a definite 'no'. If otherwise, then 'yes'. One friend mentioned that her friend said 'yes, if the girl is ugly!' What a funny response. Men will be your friend if you're unattractive? Hmm... Interesting.
One friend out of the bunch brought up a very good point. Being a typical alpha male, he said 'no'. However, he went on to add the following-
'Ask every woman this question.... Who's your closest male friend?' He went on to say, 'they will mention one name immediately. Ask, 'would the guy be able to get with you?' Would he or would he not get with you?' The answer... Most will say 'yes'. He said that they would be likely to change their answer after thinking about it for a bit to a solid 'no'. He made me laugh. That honesty was rare and refreshing. He also asked me, 'why is it that good looking people have more friends of the opposite sex than 'regular' looking people?' That question made me genuinely think.
Men and women are, in fact, always curious and attracted to their friends of the opposite sex but would never say. Some people know they don't have a chance and would rather be friends than nothing. I personally think of it from a psychological perspective. After reading a few journals on the male and female psyche I couldn't make up my mind. In the olden days it used to be about romance and it was a likely taboo to have cross-sex relationships. It was all about the male working and the female at home looking after the household. Times are changing and that women are slowly being perceived as equals to their male counterparts hence these friendships between men and women are more likely.
Movies and TV shows work against the whole 'equality' theory. Examples being 'When Harry met Sally' or Monica and Chandler from Friends. They promote that friends will always virtually get together at the end. Not necessarily. I think environments like university or work allow women and men to interact thus kindling friendships. It doesn't mean they're attracted to one another but enjoy each other's company in that moment in time. However, there is always something appealing about that person. For example, I work in a pretty huge office. I am not friends with everyone on our floor. I take my co-workers as my co-workers. Are they friendly? Most definitely. Am I really friends with all of them? Not really. We do engage in conversations and spend time together when there is a company function per say. What draws me to them? That depends. I've noticed it with everyone to be honest. Everyone is different. There's a certain characteristic that appeals to you about the person enough to be their friend. It doesn't necessarily have to be beauty or something of a physical nature, but something like sense of humour or kindness for example. I can see why some people say men and women can't be friends because it is easy to confuse liking that one's kindness for 'love' if you will.
Still, statistics and studies show that from high school through to work, men and women interact plenty and one will develop many cross-sex friendships in their lifetime. However, once married and settled down those relationships dwindle because of the change in priorities and, well, in some cultures it's believed to be a taboo. Whatever the case, there is literally no right or wrong answer. Times are changing. Environments you are placed in, force people of different sexes, religion, background or whatever to interact and live alongside one another regardless. Still word to the wise, ladies be careful not every guy is out there to be your friend! Same applies to you fellas out there (sadly).
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